<DIV>Yolanda, </DIV>
<DIV>you both need to pray together about this. My ex wanted to move to Missouri for the 25 years we lived in California (my home) as he is from here. The problem was he had changed so much he didn't fit anymore and I was that weird woman from California with her wild kids. Needless to say, we ended up divorced as we had no support system and he did not treat me with the respect that he knew he should. By the time we divorced I had abosolutely no self esteem at all. I thought that nothing mattered anymore and no one cared about me. Fortunately God sent me a great guy who kept picking me up and dusting me off and telling me I was okay the way I was. Respect for each others views and ways of thinking is so essential in a marriage. Talk to each other, listen to each other (he didn't listen even when I agreed to seek marriage counseling., he never heard a real word I said, only what he thought I should be saying and feeling.
This was mostly because he came from a totally different type of family than mine. Don't take me wrong, we were both at fault). You must talk, listen, pray, talk listen and pray some more before you both decide what is best for your family. God says that you 2 became 1, but that doesn't mean you are not still yourselves with your different backgrounds and learnings so it takes much work to reach a decision. Go see a counselor, but both of you need to be prepared to really listen to what the other is meaning, not just what is being said. Clarify that you really understand what is being said to you and be prepared to accept the differences God blessed you both with. You would be surprised how happy and well adjusted your children would be as long as you both are in agreement and happy with each other and each others differences.</DIV>
<DIV>Blessings to you both,</DIV>
<DIV>Nancy<BR><BR><B><I>gcfl-discuss@gcfl.net</I></B> wrote:</DIV>
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<DIV>Siarlys,</DIV>
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<DIV><STRONG><FONT face=Garamond color=#0000ff>Let's put this into context. I will give you my example and you tell me how you feel. My husband wants to move to GA because he has a sister, brother-in-law, and two brothers there. Plus, all of the people from his little pueblito in Mexico have moved to this small GA town. I on the other hand like GA, the mountains, the heat, etc. But, we have 5 children. GA does not offer the bilingual school that I have my children in. My family is here, and I don't want to live with his sister or near her for that matter because she is from Mexico where the culture is different and the woman is treated differently. My husband is a modernized Hispanc. I mean to say that he does not go for all that "a woman should not work", "my wife should have my dinner ready", etc. I believe that it would be in my best interest to not move because of the possible problems that could arise between me and my
in-laws. We have all been down this avenue I believe. My question to you is should I make this sacrifice for my husband which will in turn sacrifice my happiness, and the type of education that I want for my children?</FONT></STRONG></DIV>
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