<DIV>Quama,</DIV>
<DIV>are you a college student whose education is being paid for by your parents? Are you employed and not going to school? How old are you? The answer we would probably give you would definately depend on how you would answer the above questions?</DIV>
<DIV>Nancy<BR><BR><B><I>gcfl-discuss@gcfl.net</I></B> wrote:</DIV>
<BLOCKQUOTE class=replbq style="PADDING-LEFT: 5px; MARGIN-LEFT: 5px; BORDER-LEFT: #1010ff 2px solid">Age Quama? I don't know if there is an easy answer. But I'm in a simular<BR>situation. Want my own life, but not being allowed to live it.<BR><BR>I think moving out would be healthy for ya'll. But I don't have any solid<BR>answers for you. Sorry,<BR>God bless you,<BR>Lance<BR>John 8:32 "You will know the Truth and the Truth will set you free."<BR><BR>On Thu, 06 May 2004 20:17:27 -0230 gcfl-discuss@gcfl.net writes:<BR>> Ok. I have a question, and want people's opinions. The question is <BR>> this: <BR>> what do you do when what your parents want and what you want are <BR>> different.<BR>> <BR>> The context of the question is rather complicated. For the Reader's <BR>> Digest <BR>> version, I have been living on my own for a number of years now, and <BR>> my <BR>> parents made me move back home. I was planning of moving out of my <BR>> appartment, into
another one with two friends. 1 week before I was <BR>> to move, <BR>> my parents decided that it wasn't good for me. They didn't like one <BR>> of these <BR>> two individuals, and simply said "No". I didn't want to disappoint <BR>> my <BR>> friends, so I'm still paying rent there (both these individuals have <BR>> severe <BR>> food intolerances, and trust the others to NOT contaminate the <BR>> kitchen - <BR>> something they don't feel everyone can. There's only a few people <BR>> they feel <BR>> they can trust.).<BR>> <BR>> My mother loves to lecture, and will do so on any opportunity <BR>> available. <BR>> Some examples are: "You didn't get that job! ... you're too meek. <BR>> That's <BR>> what they didn't like about you... you also waste your time .... you <BR>> <BR>> shouldn't have gone to church during exams." ... [after calling me <BR>> on my <BR>> cell]<BR>> "Where are you? ... you should have called" - I
remind her that she <BR>> was to <BR>> call me, and that I did, in fact call her anyway - "... Well, when <BR>> you don't <BR>> get an answer, you call back every two minutes until you get one." <BR>> This is <BR>> not practical for two reasons: one, I use up cell phone minutes <BR>> needlessly, <BR>> and two, my father works at home, and is on the phone for hours on <BR>> end with <BR>> business associates.<BR>> <BR>> Anyway, that's just rambling. Needless to say, I'm not happy at <BR>> home; I feel <BR>> trapped, because I'm outside the city limits where there is no <BR>> public <BR>> transportation and therefore cannot go anywhere or do anything <BR>> social. I <BR>> want to be living in the city, but it would absolutely kill my <BR>> parents - esp <BR>> my mom - to live with my friends, but I need to live my life.<BR>> <BR>> I've tried talking to them, and tried just following them, not <BR>> really caring
<BR>> what it was that I wanted. Neither works well, so I was just <BR>> wondering what <BR>> you are thinking.<BR>> <BR>> ~Quama<BR>> <BR>> PS. Thanks.<BR>_______________________________________________<BR>GCFL-discuss mailing list<BR>GCFL-discuss@gcfl.net<BR>http://gcfl.net/mailman/listinfo/gcfl-discuss</BLOCKQUOTE>