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<DIV> Quama,</DIV>
<DIV> First of all, Legally they hold no ties on you. Biblically you
owe them the respect of talking to them about why they object & then
thinking about what they say. Your parents ( at least one of them) can probably
be a real prick. Although no matter how much of a prick they can be you need to
remember that they were 21 too at one time. I've learned that often older people
have a lot of good things to say <U>even though they don't know everything.</U>
<STRONG>Try to take the good out of what they have to say & look on the
positive side of it. I am not trying to preach but I MYSELF TRY VERY HARD TO
PRACTICE THIS. </STRONG>Like I said really consider what your parents have
to say. But like I said they probably have good reasons but the final
decision is yours.</DIV>
<DIV> Hope what I have to say is
some help to you. </DIV>
<DIV> Jeff</DIV>
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<DIV>Quama,</DIV>
<DIV>ask your parents why they object and see if they have a reason that you can
live with.</DIV>
<DIV>You should always honor your father and mother, so to just defy them is not
in God's perfect will, but He also does not say that you must give in without a
reason since you are an adult and pay your own way. Again, prayer is the
key and a level attitude when you ask them why.</DIV>
<DIV>Nancy<BR><BR><B><I>gcfl-discuss@gcfl.net</I></B> wrote:</DIV>
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style="BORDER-LEFT: #1010ff 2px solid; MARGIN-LEFT: 5px; PADDING-LEFT: 5px">Thou
shalt honor thy mother and father.<BR>:)<BR>Yolanda Cruz<BR>Office
Manager/Executive Assistant<BR>Business for Life<BR>7210 East State
Street<BR>Rockford, IL 61108<BR>Phone: (815) 391-9241<BR>Fax: (815)
227-5757<BR>E-mail: yolanda.c@businessforlife.biz<BR>----- Original Message
----- <BR>From: <GCFL-DISCUSS@GCFL.NET><BR>To: "Yolanda"
<YOLANDA.C@BUSINESSFORLIFE.BIZ><BR>Cc: "Discussion of the Good, Clean Funnies
List" <GCFL-DISCUSS@GCFL.NET><BR>Sent: Friday, May 07, 2004 5:30
AM<BR>Subject: Re: [GCFL-discuss] Opinions and Advice<BR><BR><BR>> Ah, good
point, Nancy. Yes, I have been paying my own tuition and living<BR>>
expenses when I was away. I am of legal age. I know that they don't
have<BR>the<BR>> right to force me to do anything I don't want to, but they
feel so<BR>strongly<BR>> about me not moving into this place. I'm trapped,
because I can't afford<BR>> ; another place, but don't want to live with my
parents.<BR>> ~Quama<BR>><BR>><BR>> >From:
gcfl-discuss@gcfl.net<BR>> >To: Quama <SEA_JAYS@HOTMAIL.COM><BR>>
>CC: "Discussion of the Good, Clean Funnies List"
<GCFL-DISCUSS@GCFL.NET><BR>> >Subject: Re: [GCFL-discuss] Opinions and
Advice<BR>> >Date: Thu, 6 May 2004 17:42:07 -0700 (PDT)<BR>>
><BR>> >Quama,<BR>> >are you a college student whose education
is being paid for by your<BR>> >parents? Are you employed and not going
to school? How old are you?<BR>The<BR>> >answer we would probably give
you would definately depend on how you<BR>would<BR>> >answer the above
questions?<BR>> >Nancy<BR>> ><BR>> >gcfl-discuss@gcfl.net
wrote:<BR>> >Age Quama? I don't know if there is an easy answer. But I'm
in a simular<BR>> >situation. Want my own life, but not being allowed to
live it.<BR>> ><BR>> >I think moving out would be heal thy for
ya'll. But I don't have any solid<BR>> >answers for you. Sorry,<BR>>
>God bless you,<BR>> >Lance<BR>> >John 8:32 "You will know the
Truth and the Truth will set you free."<BR>> ><BR>> >On Thu, 06
May 2004 20:17:27 -0230 gcfl-discuss@gcfl.net writes:<BR>> > > Ok. I
have a question, and want people's opinions. The question is<BR>> > >
this:<BR>> > > what do you do when what your parents want and what
you want are<BR>> > > different.<BR>> > ><BR>> > >
The context of the question is rather complicated. For the Reader's<BR>>
> > Digest<BR>> > > version, I have been living on my own for a
number of years now, and<BR>> > > my<BR>> > > parents made
me move back home. I was planning of moving out of my<BR>> > >
appartment, into another one with two friends. 1 week before I was<BR>>
> > to move,<BR>> > > my parents decided that it was n't good
for me. They didn't like one<BR>> > > of these<BR>> > > two
individuals, and simply said "No". I didn't want to disappoint<BR>> >
> my<BR>> > > friends, so I'm still paying rent there (both these
individuals have<BR>> > > severe<BR>> > > food intolerances,
and trust the others to NOT contaminate the<BR>> > > kitchen
-<BR>> > > something they don't feel everyone can. There's only a few
people<BR>> > > they feel<BR>> > > they can trust.).<BR>>
> ><BR>> > > My mother loves to lecture, and will do so on any
opportunity<BR>> > > available.<BR>> > > Some examples are:
"You didn't get that job! ... you're too meek.<BR>> > >
That's<BR>> > > what they didn't like about you... you also waste
your time .... you<BR>> > ><BR>> > > shouldn't have gone to
church during exams." ... [after calling me<BR>> > > on my<BR>>
> > cell]<BR>> > > "Where are you? ... you should have called"
- I remind her that she<BR>> > > was to<BR>> > > call me,
and that I did, in fact call her anyway - "... Well, when<BR>> > >
you don't<BR>> > > get an answer, you call back every two minutes
until you get one."<BR>> > > This is<BR>> > > not practical
for two reasons: one, I use up cell phone minutes<BR>> > >
needlessly,<BR>> > > and two, my father works at home, and is on the
phone for hours on<BR>> > > end with<BR>> > > business
associates.<BR>> > ><BR>> > > Anyway, that's just rambling.
Needless to say, I'm not happy at<BR>> > > home; I feel<BR>> >
> trapped, because I'm outside the city limits where there is no<BR>>
> > public<BR>> > > transportation and therefore cannot go
anywhere or do anything<BR>> > > social. I<BR>> > > want to
be livin g in the city, but it would absolutely kill my<BR>> > >
parents - esp<BR>> > > my mom - to live with my friends, but I need
to live my life.<BR>> > ><BR>> > > I've tried talking to
them, and tried just following them, not<BR>> > > really
caring<BR>> > > what it was that I wanted. Neither works well, so I
was just<BR>> > > wondering what<BR>> > > you are
thinking.<BR>> > ><BR>> > > ~Quama<BR>> > ><BR>>
> > PS. Thanks.<BR>>
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