[GCFL-discuss] Siarlys

Mon May 3 13:55:23 CDT 2004

Yolanda,

Sorry that I touched that subject on  a sore spot. Not my intention. Maybe I should clarify.

 What I was trying to say is, as a man and woman you are one. I  husband respects his wife and loves her as his own body. The man also is in turn the head of the Christ. Meaning he is setting the example but also leading. Conversation between you two is essential. I  sure you both wan to make each other happy. But in the end, the husband will want to do what is best for both of you. That is why, in the scriptures the wife is to be submissive. God knows what makes a marriage work and make it right. 
The Bible says that a husband is the head of his family. (1 Corinthians 11:3) 
We all are submissive to someone. Even Jesus had to be submissive to his Father. Please don't take this wrong though. 
I'm just trying to relate to you in your problem. God created the marriage arrangement for a reason. Not just to say it's all 50/ 50. At sometimes it is. But when it comes it decisions our husbands make, we wife's should respect them and Honor their headship. 

Posh

gcfl-discuss at gcfl.net wrote:
Posh, I don't know what world you live in, but my husband and I talk things out and come to an agreement.  No, one party is not as happy as the other, but that is life.  We don't have a relationship where he says and I do.  Sorry.  You touched a touchy subject.
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Subject: Re: [GCFL-discuss] Siarlys

Yolanda,

I know this one is for Siarlys, but I thought I should comment. 
In September 2003, My one and only sister moved to boston, mass. She also took with her my one and only nephew. Her husband was in the military ans was just released. Before all this occurred we had BIG problems with his family up north. When they found out my sister was pregnant, they suggested abortion. (They are Catholics). They always complained about her beliefs when it came to her child and what it would be raised. When my sister was here, we were always here to comfort her and help her out. Her husband informed her that when he was released, he wanted to move back where his family is from. We were all shocked. But when he got his letter to show his release, she went along with it. We were supportive but not happy. My sister just said, " I go, where he goes." 
Even though you may have good reasons for staying (like my sister), he is your husband. you can state your problems to him and concerns, but what he says goes. All you can do is pray to god for guidance, (proverbs 3: 4 &5).

You need to work at what you pray for. You will thus prove that you have faith and that you really mean what you say. Only then will God answer your prayers.—Hebrews 11:6. 

Posh

gcfl-discuss at gcfl.net wrote:
Siarlys,

Let's put this into context.  I will give you my example and you tell me how you feel.  My husband wants to move to GA because he has a sister, brother-in-law, and two brothers there.  Plus, all of the people from his little pueblito in Mexico have moved to this small GA town.  I on the other hand like GA, the mountains, the heat, etc.  But, we have 5 children.  GA does not offer the bilingual school that I have my children in.  My family is here, and I don't want to live with his sister or near her for that matter because she is from Mexico where the culture is different and the woman is treated differently.  My husband is a modernized Hispanc.  I mean to say that he does not go for all that "a woman should not work", "my wife should have my dinner ready", etc.  I believe that it would be in my best interest to not move because of the possible problems that could arise between me and my in-laws.  We have all been down this avenue I believe.  My question to you is should I make this
 sacrifice for my husband which will in turn sacrifice my happiness, and the type of education that I want for my children?

Yolanda Cruz
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Business for Life
Phone: (815) 391-9241
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