[GCFL-discuss] Opinions and Advice

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Age Quama?  I don't know if there is an easy answer. But I'm in a simular
situation. Want my own life, but not being allowed to live it.

I think moving out would be healthy for ya'll. But I don't have any solid
answers for you. Sorry,
God bless you,
Lance
John 8:32 "You will know the Truth and the Truth will set you free."

On Thu, 06 May 2004 20:17:27 -0230 gcfl-discuss at gcfl.net writes:
> Ok. I have a question, and want people's opinions. The question is 
> this: 
> what do you do when what your parents want and what you want are 
> different.
> 
> The context of the question is rather complicated. For the Reader's 
> Digest 
> version, I have been living on my own for a number of years now, and 
> my 
> parents made me move back home. I was planning of moving out of my 
> appartment, into another one with two friends. 1 week before I was 
> to move, 
> my parents decided that it wasn't good for me. They didn't like one 
> of these 
> two individuals, and simply said "No". I didn't want to disappoint 
> my 
> friends, so I'm still paying rent there (both these individuals have 
> severe 
> food intolerances, and trust the others to NOT contaminate the 
> kitchen - 
> something they don't feel everyone can. There's only a few people 
> they feel 
> they can trust.).
> 
> My mother loves to lecture, and will do so on any opportunity 
> available. 
> Some examples are: "You didn't get that job! ... you're too meek. 
> That's 
> what they didn't like about you... you also waste your time .... you 
> 
> shouldn't have gone to church during exams." ... [after calling me 
> on my 
> cell]
> "Where are you? ... you should have called" - I remind her that she 
> was to 
> call me, and that I did, in fact call her anyway - "... Well, when 
> you don't 
> get an answer, you call back every two minutes until you get one." 
> This is 
> not practical for two reasons: one, I use up cell phone minutes 
> needlessly, 
> and two, my father works at home, and is on the phone for hours on 
> end with 
> business associates.
> 
> Anyway, that's just rambling. Needless to say, I'm not happy at 
> home; I feel 
> trapped, because I'm outside the city limits where there is no 
> public 
> transportation and therefore cannot go anywhere or do anything 
> social. I 
> want to be living in the city, but it would absolutely kill my 
> parents - esp 
> my mom - to live with my friends, but I need to live my life.
> 
> I've tried talking to them, and tried just following them, not 
> really caring 
> what it was that I wanted. Neither works well, so I was just 
> wondering what 
> you are thinking.
> 
> ~Quama
> 
> PS. Thanks.