[GCFL-discuss] Opinions and Advice

Sat May 8 00:44:48 CDT 2004

   Quama,
 First of all, Legally they hold no ties on you.  Biblically you owe them
the respect of talking to them about why they object & then thinking
about what they say. Your parents ( at least one of them) can probably be
a real prick. Although no matter how much of a prick they can be you need
to remember that they were 21 too at one time. I've learned that often
older people have a lot of good things to say even though they don't know
everything. Try to take the good out of what they have to say & look on
the positive side of it. I am not trying to preach but I MYSELF TRY VERY
HARD TO PRACTICE THIS. Like I said  really consider what your parents
have to say. But like I  said they probably have good reasons but the
final decision is yours.
        Hope what I have to say  is some help to you. 
 Jeff

Quama,
ask your parents why they object and see if they have a reason that you
can live with.
You should always honor your father and mother, so to just defy them is
not in God's perfect will, but He also does not say that you must give in
without a reason since you are an adult and pay your own way.  Again,
prayer is the key and a level attitude when you ask them why.
Nancy

gcfl-discuss at gcfl.net wrote:
Thou shalt honor thy mother and father.
:)
Yolanda Cruz
Office Manager/Executive Assistant
Business for Life
7210 East State Street
Rockford, IL 61108
Phone: (815) 391-9241
Fax: (815) 227-5757
E-mail: yolanda.c at businessforlife.biz
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Subject: Re: [GCFL-discuss] Opinions and Advice

> Ah, good point, Nancy. Yes, I have been paying my own tuition and
living
> expenses when I was away. I am of legal age. I know that they don't
have
the
> right to force me to do anything I don't want to, but they feel so
strongly
> about me not moving into this place. I'm trapped, because I can't
afford
> ; another place, but don't want to live with my parents.
> ~Quama
>
>
> >From: gcfl-discuss at gcfl.net
> >To: Quama 
> >CC: "Discussion of the Good, Clean Funnies List" 
> >Subject: Re: [GCFL-discuss] Opinions and Advice
> >Date: Thu, 6 May 2004 17:42:07 -0700 (PDT)
> >
> >Quama,
> >are you a college student whose education is being paid for by your
> >parents? Are you employed and not going to school? How old are you?
The
> >answer we would probably give you would definately depend on how you
would
> >answer the above questions?
> >Nancy
> >
> >gcfl-discuss at gcfl.net wrote:
> >Age Quama? I don't know if there is an easy answer. But I'm in a
simular
> >situation. Want my own life, but not being allowed to live it.
> >
> >I think moving out would be heal thy for ya'll. But I don't have any
solid
> >answers for you. Sorry,
> >God bless you,
> >Lance
> >John 8:32 "You will know the Truth and the Truth will set you free."
> >
> >On Thu, 06 May 2004 20:17:27 -0230 gcfl-discuss at gcfl.net writes:
> > > Ok. I have a question, and want people's opinions. The question is
> > > this:
> > > what do you do when what your parents want and what you want are
> > > different.
> > >
> > > The context of the question is rather complicated. For the Reader's
> > > Digest
> > > version, I have been living on my own for a number of years now,
and
> > > my
> > > parents made me move back home. I was planning of moving out of my
> > > appartment, into another one with two friends. 1 week before I was
> > > to move,
> > > my parents decided that it was n't good for me. They didn't like
one
> > > of these
> > > two individuals, and simply said "No". I didn't want to disappoint
> > > my
> > > friends, so I'm still paying rent there (both these individuals
have
> > > severe
> > > food intolerances, and trust the others to NOT contaminate the
> > > kitchen -
> > > something they don't feel everyone can. There's only a few people
> > > they feel
> > > they can trust.).
> > >
> > > My mother loves to lecture, and will do so on any opportunity
> > > available.
> > > Some examples are: "You didn't get that job! ... you're too meek.
> > > That's
> > > what they didn't like about you... you also waste your time ....
you
> > >
> > > shouldn't have gone to church during exams." ... [after calling me
> > > on my
> > > cell]
> > > "Where are you? ... you should have called" - I remind her that she
> > > was to
> > > call me, and that I did, in fact call her anyway - "... Well, when
> > > you don't
> > > get an answer, you call back every two minutes until you get one."
> > > This is
> > > not practical for two reasons: one, I use up cell phone minutes
> > > needlessly,
> > > and two, my father works at home, and is on the phone for hours on
> > > end with
> > > business associates.
> > >
> > > Anyway, that's just rambling. Needless to say, I'm not happy at
> > > home; I feel
> > > trapped, because I'm outside the city limits where there is no
> > > public
> > > transportation and therefore cannot go anywhere or do anything
> > > social. I
> > > want to be livin g in the city, but it would absolutely kill my
> > > parents - esp
> > > my mom - to live with my friends, but I need to live my life.
> > >
> > > I've tried talking to them, and tried just following them, not
> > > really caring
> > > what it was that I wanted. Neither works well, so I was just
> > > wondering what
> > > you are thinking.
> > >
> > > ~Quama
> > >
> > > PS. Thanks.
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