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A Girl's Guide to Geek Guys   
Date: Sent Friday, August 21, 1998
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A Girl's Guide to Geek Guys
By Mikki Halpin and Victoria Maat
www.thegeekhandbook.com
/* This was found on the Internet at http://web.nwe.ufl.edu/~northrup/geek.html */
So, your crush on the bass player from Vibrating Sandbox has finally died a whimpering death and you're wondering where to go from here. All the
scenester dudes are either dating a series of interchangeable high-school riot grrrls in baby doll dresses and an overdose of manic panic, or
permanently shacked up with some bitter old lady who pays all the bills. Which will it be, a wifely prison or a humiliating one night stand? Into
this void of potential mates comes a man you may not have considered before, a man of substance, quietude and stability, a cerebral creature with a
culture all his own. In short, a geek.
Where The Geek Dude Lurks
While they are often into alternative music, geek dudes tend not to go to shows too often. Instead you'll find them hanging out with their friends,
discussing the latest hardware revolution or perfecting their Bill Gates impressions. You know how some people wear t-shirts with their favorite bands
on them, thus showing that they went to certain shows? Well, geek dudes wear t-shirts with the logos of different software companies on them, thus
showing that they are up on the latest, um, releases. A small, though convivial, rivalry may be detected here amongst the geek dudes. Try wearing one
yourself and see if he strikes up a conversation.
Of course the best way to meet a geek dude is through the Internet. All geeks harbor a secret fantasy about meeting some girl in cyberspace, carrying
on an e-mail romance in which he has the chance to combine an activity he is comfortable with, computing, with one he is very uncomfortable with,
socializing. To many geek dudes, cyberdating is just an advanced form of some kind of video game, but they are frustrated by a lack of players. Their
lack is your strength.
Imprinting
You might notice that these men harbor some strange ideas about how the world works and some particularly strange ideas about women. There is a reason
for this. Because they've had limited interpersonal experience, geek dudes must look elsewhere for behavior models. Lacking a real world social
milieu, geeks often go through a transference stage with such narratives, and try to model their interactions on them. Thus, certain media images and
themes come to have an overly cathected, metaphorized reality to them, while the rest of us view such programming as mere entertainment. Case in
point, our next topic....
The Trek factor
If you're not up on your Star Trek, you can forget about getting or keeping a geek dude. And I'm not just talking vintage-era Captain Kirk and Spock
either. You've got to be up on your The Next Generation, your Deep Space Nine, your Voyager. Armed with your own knowledge of Federation policies, you
can better gauge when and how to act. For extra help in learning how to relate in their own language, check out the Klingon Language Institute.
Once You've Nabbed Him
Of course, catching that geek guy is only half the battle. Keeping him by your side is another story altogether. I was privileged to speak with Miss
Victoria Maat, who not only got herself a geek guy but was also clever enough to marry him just a few short months ago. She interrupted her newlywed
bliss to give us a few tips on the care and feeding of a geek man:
Geeks are sensitive and caring lovers and husbands. If you can hang with the techno-lifestyle, they make the best mates. They are the most attractive
people, not flashy or hunky, but the kind who get cuter and more alluring over time (I told you she was a newlywed). Definitely give geeks a
chance.
Geek Cuisine
Geeks tend towards packaged, junk foods since they prefer to work and think and aren't all that into cooking for themselves. Make sure that your geek
understands that you are not merely a replicator, and provide him with home cooked food. A batch of chocolate chip cookies will let him know that you
love him. You do have to monitor your geek for weight gain; however, remember that most of their days are spent sitting and staring at a monitor.
Geek Lifestyle
The geek dude has long work habits and tends to bring his work home with him. He seems permanently connected to his hard disk. You must at least
appear interested in his work. Generally, a solid understanding of the computer is a must; if you cannot master this, you should at least be able to
talk the talk. Remember most geeks are anal and they get stressed about details which appear insignificant. Be understanding, put on your best Deanna
Troi face (see above) and empathize.
To relax, geeks love to play the latest computer games. Let him play Myst or Chuck Yeager's Air Combat for hours if he wants to. Act concerned if he's
stuck or has just been ambushed by three MiGs. My geek loves to try to help people on the Internet who say that they are stuck in Myst. He comes up
with clever riddles instead of directing them point blank. Geeks also like to go to sci-fi and Japanese animated movies, again, a basically harmless
vent for your man.
Geek Buddies
Many geeks extend their work friendships into what they jokingly refer to as RL (Real Life, also known as "that big room with the ceiling that is
sometimes blue and sometimes black with little lights"). The greatest thing about your geek's buddies is that you can feel secure in setting them up
with your girlfriends. They may feel awkward around females at first, so don't overwhelm them. In time they will come out of their shell and realize
that you are into the same things they are.
Post-It Note
I thank Victoria for the above advice. I must say that when she read my draft of the piece, before writing her section, she asked her husband which
one he thought she was more like, Deanna or Beverly. Howard, the devil, immediately replied that he had always thought Victoria was actually most like
Ensign Ro Laren, a cute character with a slight authority problem who is always had trouble (this is fairly apt). This exchange is interesting for
several reasons:
1. Howard had already thought about who she was most like.
2. He could summon up characters from seasons past with ease.
3. Victoria actually knew who he meant.
Folks, I think this marriage will last.
One Last Thing
Because they have been so abused and ignored by society, many geeks have gone underground. You may actually know some and just haven't noticed them.
They often feel resentful, and misunderstood, and it is important to realize this as you grow closer to them. Don't ever try to force the issue, or
make crazy demands that he choose between his computer and you. Remember, his computer has been there for him his whole life; you are a new interloper
he hasn't quite grasped yet.
Geek dudes thrive on mystery and love challenges and intellectual puzzles. Don't you consider yourself one? Wouldn't you like a little intellectual
stimulation or your own? We thought so.
Happy Hunting!
Copyright (C) 1995 Bunnyhop. Reprinted without permission.
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